I’ve said before that there’s nothing wrong with a one-night stand. There’s nothing wrong with being single and having fun, as long as you’re safe. I encourage everyone to get tested and have a blast. I’d also like to encourage you to do something else. Screen your clients. The term may seem clinical or like a business transaction. But don’t get stuck on my word choice. Semantics aside, there’s a lot to unpack here.
Sometimes you meet someone (whether in public, through a friend, or on a dating app), and you hit it off. Things are flowing and soon you’re getting intimate. Things should always flow and chemistry is beyond important. You know what’s equally important? Learning who you’re sleeping with. Learning who you’re dating.
It’s true that you are a stranger to everyone you meet and they are a stranger to you. I’d like to encourage you to get to know them a bit. Because if you don’t, you literally don’t know who you’re dealing with. You don’t know whose house you’re in. You don’t know who you’re inviting to your apartment. I’m not saying they’re going to Purge when they arrive. What I’m saying is, you don’t know what they are capable of, what they believe in, or don’t believe in. They may have great kissing skills and greater oral abilities, but that’s not all you’ll be receiving.
You’re going to deal with whatever baggage, beliefs, and perspectives they come with. You may have spoken before things became intimate and briefly picked their brain. Cool. But you don’t really know someone after the first interview. It’s not until they’re at that job regularly that you start to get to know them a bit. Seldom do people reveal their true colors at the start of the game. There were times when even Kobe didn’t heat up until the second half. It pays to know this person you’re dealing with.
To be blunt, I’m saying that if you’re dealing with a stranger you’re already at a disadvantage. If you’re dating or being intimate with them don’t allow them to continue being a stranger. Because you’re exchanging, ideas, time,and fluids with a stranger. Get to know them. Learn about them. Find out more about who they really are. Because the less you know about them, the more you leave yourself open to getting hurt, blindsided, and surprised in bad ways. Then you’re forced to play defense. As opposed to studying film and getting to know the person.
