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Pleasure vs Greed

When it comes to sex, there’s a thin line between pleasure and greed. When the session is going well, things are flowing, you’re having a great time, you don’t want it to stop. You’re enjoying every hot, sweaty, moan filled moment. If you could, you’d freeze this moment in time and relive this moment over and over again. You’re enjoying the pleasure so much, you’re enjoying the moment so much, that you want to keep feeling that pleasure. But this is usually the moment when you forget all about your partner and their pleasure.

These moments happen often, and we’re all guilty of them. That moment when you feel like maybe your partner had enough pleasure and you say to yourself, “Time to get mine”. Or, maybe you just slip into deep pleasure, you feel ecstasy coming – literally – and you sacrifice your partners pleasure to reach that feeling. It’s a great moment. But its a great moment for you. You’ve crossed the bridge into greedy town.

Once you’ve made the decision to focus on yourself you’ve made a nasty decision. Once you’ve focused on pleasing yourself you’ve begun to neglect your partner. Which should probably never be the case during intimacy. It doesn’t matter what sexual act is happening, we should be focusing on pleasure being mutual. When both parties are focused on each other the sex flows and both are satisfied. When we focus on ourselves we often leave our partners less satisfied.

There’s a fine line between enjoying the moment, basking in it, and completely hogging the moment. Especially if you are doing so consciously. Being greedy during sex is something that happens often. However, if you can sacrifice a little bit of your own pleasure at that moment there’s usually a greater moment waiting for you. That moment of unified pleasure is where long lasting memories are. That’s where the story book endings are.

Imagine that this is the last time you will be intimate with this partner. Which it very well could be. Do you want their last memory of you to be one of greed? Do you want the last sec session you have with them to end with them feeling unsatisfied? How do you think that would look on your resume? Wouldn’t you want that last session to be a great memory for you both? This is why we have to remind ourselves to focus on our partner and not ourselves. This is why we have to remind ourselves not to be greedy.

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Sex Talk Pt. 11 – Mutual Pleasure

Do you want sex to be one sided? Are you cool with just one person achieving maximum stimulation? I’m not just talking about coming. I’m talking about cravings and desires being fulfilled. Should only one person feel fully satisfied mentally (yes, sex is also mental), and physically when sex is over? If both parties aren’t being satisfied then the sex wasn’t truly fulfilling. Even if both parties came, that doesn’t mean they are both walking away a hundred percent satisfied.

Some may think that if a person made their partner cum, that the mission of maximum stimulation was achieved. But what about the other person involved? If I came but you didn’t, is the job done? Have your cravings been fulfilled? Probably not. Sex is often said to be an exchange. But there are plenty of statistics showing that it isn’t an exchange. Sadly studies have shown for decades that women come less often than men.

There’s an easy way to change these statistics and an easy way to ensure that everyone has a blast – pun intended. Focus on each other. Focus on making your partner happy. Focus on pleasing them. You can do plenty of small things to boost pleasure. The more you get to know your partner, the easier this becomes. But even if you laid with someone for the first time, as soon as you finished reading this, focusing on their pleasure will separate you from others.

People are often greedy and selfish. Everyone is trying to focus on coming, not coming, focusing on the momemt, attempting not to focus on the many things going through their minds. I understand all of those things and the reasoning behind them. However, if we focus on making the experience great for both parties, we can take things to a higher level of intimacy and pleasure.

In closing, it’s wise to focus on your partner’s pleasure. If both parties are doing this then it is easier to reach the goal of mutual pleasure. It’s easier to be satiated when the session is over. Ensuring your partner’s check list of wants is cleared, can also ensure great sex for two. And for men this can prove as a helpful way of taking your mind off of you reaching the finishline. Keep your partner’s pleasure, cravings and desires in mind at all times.

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