Sometimes you have amazing sex and feel like you’ve gotten a taste of heaven. Everything from the first kiss, to the last thrust, went great. You and your partner both feel great! Now what? Get up, clean up, give them a high five, and get dressed? I’m sure you know this already, but people can lose that natural high just as quickly as they gained it. That’s exactly why you may want to do a few things after sex is over. These things can help keep the mood and make your partner feel calm, comfortable, and even safe.
The first thing you can do is focus on their emotional wellbeing. This is a great time to help them feel good about the experience as a whole. You can discuss what just happened (sex), and offer them praise or even reassurance. These are great for morale and boosting your partners spirits. You can even be silent. There’s some who find that being silent for a little while after sex is soothing, comforting. These can all be comforting acts, that are just as intimate as sex.
Another thing you can do is appeal go their physical nature. One way to do this is to get them some water. A nice cold glass of water helps after an intense session. You can also cuddle with them and hold them close. This keeps the connection going. Keeping this intimacy going can be very helpful.
These acts are often called aftercare. Those things you do after sex to keep the intimacy going, and make your partner feel relaxed, cared for, and safe can be just as important as sex itself. Sadly, many don’t do any aftercare. They finish up, clean up, and head out of the room. Doing these small things can make a big difference when the session is over. Aftercare is a great way to keep things intimate and decrease your partners level of vulnerability.
