Whether you’re single or not, having multiple sex partners is a lot to juggle. There are all types of names for it, and all types of views on it. Whether you’re in multiple relationships or sleeping with multiple people, there are lots of things to deal with, and consider. Time and effort, personalities, emotional intelligence, and more. All of these things should be considered regardless of which side of the fence you sit on.
Time is something that we don’t get back. How much time and effort you give a person can directly affect you and your energy levels as well. By giving tons of time and effort to others, you can easily be drained or overwhelmed. If you’re in multiple relationships you have to be able to juggle that time and effort equally among the people that you’re committed to. If you’re single it’s not much different. You have to be able to juggle how much time and effort you give each partner. You may not be devoted to them the way you would be with a spouse, but you have dedicated yourself to them in some way. You have to be able to give each person the time and effort that is needed to keep things afloat. And if you want to excel, you have to figure out how to manage your time, and juggle everything that comes with having multiple partners. This can be very taxing, and extremely overwhelming if you’re not careful.
Everyone has different personalities. If you have multiple partners then you have to deal with each of those personalities. Whether that means dealing with two personalities or a ton, you’re going to be with each of them. It behooves you to learn about each of those personalities and to learn how to cater to each of them. The way you do this may be different if you’re in a relationship or not, but it’s still something that has to be done. Even if that’s on a small level, you’re going to want to learn about each of the personalities you’re going to be around on a regular basis. This takes time and can also be a lot for some to juggle. Especially, if you’re in several committed relationships.
Emotional intelligence is hard to come by. Not everyone understands how to deal with their emotions in an intelligent way. This mostly means keeping it real with yourself, being self aware of how you feel and how you have to proceed in situations. If you’re in a non-committed situation and develop feelings, you have to ask yourself what that means, how you should handle it, and how you should proceed. You and you’re partners are going to need to exercise that emotional intelligence. Without it, things can easily spiral out of control if emotions are not kept in check. Especially, if you’re not in a relationship with any of those partners. The less committed you are to those partners, the more you should exercise that emotional intelligence. The more you may need to keep those emotions in line.
The truth is, the more partners you have, the more you’re going to be extending yourself. You’re extending yourself physically, emotionally, and more. You’re giving up a lot of yourself, and you’re going to have to juggle a lot of things as well. Each person comes with different traits, quirks, likes, and dislikes. Each person will want and expect different things. Each person will require different things from you both in and out of the bedroom. You may only be thinking about the lavish lifestyle that TV portrays of the single bachelor or the polyamorous god-like person. But there’s a lot more to consider. As always, you should consider all aspects of the situation before diving in. If not, you could easily find yourself overworked, overwhelmed, and undervalued. On the flip side of the coin, if you work with each of these partners, compromise and exercise emotional intelligence, things could be great for all of you.
