As I said in a previous blog, “Even your favorite position, every day, gets boring”. Staying stagnate is dangerous. Especially with sex partners. More so, when you are with that partner frequently. Long term sex partners are often entangled and intimate. This means they are having sex for a long period of time. No one wants to be doing the same exact thing(s) for years and years.
If you started having sex ten or twenty years ago, then I’d hope that you have learned, and evolved sexually over the years. Many people have knowledge and experience. But, when they find a partner they like, they become complacent. Whether your partner is your significant other, or a long term sex partner of another kind, you’ve probably had a lot of sex over the years. That’s great. But even great sex can become boring when its repetitive.
The same way that we should be striving to be better and evolve in life, we should be doing the same in the bedroom. The problem with being stagnant or complacent with sex is that the flame of your relationship (both in and out of the bedroom) can be affected by it. Simply put, people get bored with sameness. We all have fantasies, unfulfilled desires, and things we’d like to do one day. We also have short attention spans in 2021.
You can’t expect anyone to be okay with a copy and paste method month in and month out, year in and year out. We have got to level up. And that journey is different for everyone. You have to be honest about where you’re at, and what your partner’s expectations are. I advise discussing it with your partner and also doing a self audit. Ask yourself where you’re lacking and then see how you can improve that. Also, speak to your partner and see how you can better accommodate them and their needs. Idealistically they will be doing the same. Then the two of you can learn and grow together.
