Sex talk 12 – Expressing Desires & Cravings

We all have cravings and desires. I’m not only talking about cake and ice cream either. Your partner may have amazing tongue skills and more. They may know your body well too. But if you’re not expressing your cravings, the things you desire, then it will be challenging to get them fulfilled.

Knowing what you want is hard enough. Then comes the inner debate about expressing or not expressing those things to your partner. You may think that what you’re craving is too much for your partner. Or perhaps its something small, but too wild for your partner’s taste. If you’re leaving it to chance, or hoping your parner is Professor X, there’s a low probability of you getting what you want.

So how do you get what you want? How do you get your cravings fulfilled? By expressing them. Which can be scary and difficult. However, often, if you don’t ask, you won’t know. It also means that if you don’t express, you won’t receive. Embracing your desires, expressing your cravings, and empowering yourself can all be synonyms.

Speaking up is powerful. Asking for what you want isn’t wrong. I think we should embrace it. I think our partners should too. I think more of us should speak to our partners about what we want and crave. I think if we did, it would make things easier, and may even let your partner learn more about you and the kinks you’re into. Pushing away your desires, pocketing your cravings, only stops you from gaining maximum satisfaction. Express it, embrace it, do it.

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Thanks Dad!

This week’s thought provoking quote was inspired by my dad. A few days ago we were talking about politics and current events – as we often do. When the dollar and what it is “backed by”, came up. We had an interesting conversation about what it used to be backed by, what it is now backed by, and even what we think it should be backed by.

When we say “backed by” we are referencing what the dollar is equivalent to. Many believe that the dollar is equal to a certain percentage of gold. They believe that if you have X amount of dollars than it is the same as having X amount of gold. However, this is not the case. In fact, it has not been the case for eons (exaggeration). The gold standard and the dollar are no tied together. Nixon took us off of the gold standard many moons ago. It is also said that President Kennedy was trying back the dollar by silver.

If this is true and Kennedy would have succeeded then the USD or dollar would be equal to a percentage of silver. Whether his attempts were for the greater good, or whether his attempts were merely a rumor is a discussion for another time. But this conversation with my dad brought a quote from one of our favorite movies to the forefront of my mind.

The movie Wall Street makes reference to our exact conversation. It was released in 1987 – the year I was born – and starts both Michael Douglas and a young Charlie Sheen. Oliver Stone did an amazing job with this film and it’s not only entertaining, it is informative.

I encourage you to watch the film, and perhaps I’ll speak more about this topic next week. Do you know what the dollar is backed by currently? Do you know what a dollar is worth? I’d love to hear your thoughts and see what perspective and knowledge y’all have on this.